How do i tell my family i am ******* without causing a fight?
Taylor M asked:
I am ******* and only a couple of family members know i am *******. How dod i tell the rest without causing a fight?
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I am ******* and only a couple of family members know i am *******. How dod i tell the rest without causing a fight?
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danny:
Wait until you don’t live with them, that way if something does happen, you can just go home =P
June 7, 2008, 9:52 amGAY PRIDE!:
tell them you love them so much but you like girls and you just cant help it. and then ask them how they feel about it.
June 8, 2008, 9:07 amC B:
If you know that they wont except and they might like kick you out of the house, then maybe you should just wait until you are out and on your own.
June 11, 2008, 7:10 pmShawna:
If it is your immediate family you need to tell then tell them that you are interested in girls. If it’s cousins and aunts and uncles it’s none of there business unless you really want to know then you could bring a date to a family function(they\d be less likely to argue in front of a date No?)
June 13, 2008, 6:54 pmsteffi:
If a few know, they’ll all know shortly. Trust me.
June 16, 2008, 4:28 amversatile:
Cause that fight baby!
Its not your fault if people react poorly to reality. Its not you that is causing any fight, its their inability to understand the world they live in.
They will get over it.
June 17, 2008, 2:40 amjordan:
bring them to a room pass a feather to show respect however has the fether confesses something if you talk when someones speaking you show them hurt so yeah
June 18, 2008, 2:27 amcharityhaugh:
Drop subtle hints about how you feel about girls. That’s what I did. If your family’s pretty open-minded that’s the best thing to do, because by the time you are ready to tell them, they’ll already have suspected and won’t be so shocked. I haven’t told my family yet, but a few weeks ago, my brother asked me casually if I’d found myself a nice guy or girl yet. So that’s what worked for me.
June 20, 2008, 6:11 amThe Neverending Storm:
If they’re uber religious freaks then do the following
June 20, 2008, 3:32 pm1. Walk into the house
2. Give them a walkie talkie
3. Tell them to turn on the walkie talkie
4. The another walkie talkie and get about 5 miles away
5. In a high pitched tone say “Haaai Guuuuuuys…”
*Awkward silence for 2 minutes*
I’m a *******! Bai!
uchaboo:
Well, if you are still in school and still live at home, I suggest until you can afford to live on your own to wait to tell them. The reason why I say that you should wait is because there are a lot of stories where there are a lot of teenagers who get kicked out of their homes because they came out and they are now homeless. Which is sad, but true. Until you have the means to live on your own (if you still live with them)or they are supporting through school or something, do not come out to them yet. Just wait. Sometimes waiting to tell is the best thing. I hope this helps.
June 23, 2008, 8:50 amsuebirdfan4lyfe10:
I would sit them down, and explain to them why you are *** and why you like girls, I would tell them that it’s not a choice, and if they try to tell you that it is just a faze explain to them that you were born *** and it’s not like you woke up one day and was like i am going to be *** today, just to be different, ok so that may be a little over board but just tell them that you are really atracted to women and that you can’t help it, Hope this helps, oh and remember ******** rule.
June 23, 2008, 7:57 pmxxsmok3yxx:
If there is hostility against homosexuality of any kind in your family then its not going to be easy - I won’t lie to you.
I’m bisexual and I tried telling my mum and step dad - they just laughed. Eventually I sat my mum down and told her. She had plenty of questions. I answered as many as I could. The rest of my family doesn’t know.
If you run the risk of being thrown out of your home you have two options - 1) Tell them and get thrown out (in that case I would suggest going to your local council just to make sure you have some sort of back up housing options). Or 2) You can wait till you leave. If you can’t wait - simply do it.
Worse case scenario is they will stop talking to you for some time but families always come around. Before you worry about a fight, Are there any *** people in your family? If so, seek their advice, because if you know then they had to have come out at one point. If not, the fact that you are worrying there wil be a fight means they are capable of it.
THE CRUCIAL QUESTION IS: How ******* are you? Stupid question but are you sure you’ll be a ******* in the next 5 years? If you are then just tell them - don’t worry about the consequences. If you’re sceptical then don’t bother sweetie x
Good Luck!
June 24, 2008, 4:12 amryan.megan@rocketmail.com:
Well coming from experience I had that exact problem. Honestly, it shouldn’t cause a fight…if it does then thats wrong. Your family should except you for who you are. and if they have a problem they will get over it. I just didn’t go out of my way to tell anyone..people found out from word of mouth and if they asked I would tell them the truth..I shouldn’t have to advertise my sexuality.. If they mention if you have a boyfriend…say no.. I have a girlfriend, that what I did… i just didnt go out of my way to tell them
June 24, 2008, 9:27 amrebelchikrocker:
Danny is right: if you can manage not to tell anyone else who you really are until you’re really independent and on your own so that even if bad **** goes down, you don’t have to be there to bear the brunt of it. Good Luck. BTW, that’s what I’m doing. Holding myself back until I don’t have to depend on anyone else.
June 26, 2008, 4:26 pm